We joke in our family that cinnamon Pop-Tarts®
are what saved us. Besides the dietary restrictions placed
on him by living with Galactosemia, my son Joey (11) was a
picky eater in his younger years due to feeding issues. But
cinnamon Pop-Tarts are the one thing we knew he’d eat. They
continue to be a staple in our household. When he could
barely speak, he would say “pop,” and we’d know he was
hungry. He even dressed up as a box of Pop-Tarts one
Halloween.
I like to think that everything happens for a reason. When
Joey was diagnosed with Galactosemia as a newborn, it was a
huge shock. After going through fertility treatments to get
pregnant, and then a 72-hour labor, I just wanted to go home
with my baby. It was a jarring experience hearing that we
had to return to the hospital with him and that there might
be complications, but that
experience changed my connection with
him, perhaps even made it stronger.
Once we learned everything that
we could possibly learn about Galactosemia, my husband and I
decided that
we were not going to parent him as if
he’s “different.”
Galactosemia impacts our whole family and is a part of our
everyday life but does not define who Joey is. He knows that
he can’t have certain foods and that he faces learning
impairments in school, but otherwise, we encourage him to be
who he is: he plays golf, he enjoys video games, he cares
for his friends, and he runs track.
“We were not going
to parent him as if he’s ‘different’.”
In fact, it was track that first helped us connect with
another member of the Galactosemia community. I met this
family through social media and learned that their child
would be in the same track meet as Joey. At that track meet,
we got to meet! It was the first time Joey ever met someone
else with Galactosemia. Joey’s friendship with this boy
continued as they traveled and participated in a clinical
trial together.
It’s been life-changing to connect with other moms who “just
get it.” They understand that
Galactosemia is not just about a
restricted diet, that it’s a serious disease, with
neurological impact, that represents a lifelong journey.
It’s part of the reason that I became so involved in raising
awareness and fundraising for Galactosemia. Fundraising
provides a sense of healing for us; it’s a way to get our
story out there.
“We meet the challenge”
Like anyone,
we have good days, and we have bad
days.
But we celebrate both. My husband and I work full time, and
Joey has two siblings, Victoria (age 8) and Adriana (age 1):
life is busy! We unwind by taking vacations. I love to sit
on a beach; the whole family loves being outdoors. I always
call hotels in advance to make sure they can accommodate
Joey’s demanding diet.
One of the biggest challenges with
Galactosemia is the unknown.
But, as Joey has taught me, we shift to make it work for us.
If he needs support in school, we advocate for him to have
the support he needs.
We meet the challenge.
We’re all trying our best and our hardest. And at the end of
the day, that’s all you can do.